Traditions for Gay Weddings?

 The hardest part of planning our wedding is that there are no traditions to follow. Although that might seem cool to start your own, it can also be very difficult. The hardest part so far is a wedding party and the best man/maid of honor. We would like a wedding party because we want those close friends to be a part of our special day. But I do have about 12 people that I am close to like my family and I did not know how to approach it. So I just figured to ask them all. I know its gonna be like a big o'l Quincenera but who cares! We are doing it the way we want and having 9 couples is the least of my worries.

We also decided against having a best man or maid of honor, what we chose are 'Honorary Attendants' which consist of the following:
Michael chose a couple that have inspired and really help our relationship grow as a gay couple. I chose a couple as well. We each also chose a friend that we can be ourselves with and can really count on. So our wedding party is as follows:

Honorary Attendants
3 couples

Wedding Attendants
6 couples

They will all have a task in our wedding to really include them in our special day. I don't know if this is over the top but it feels right.